The Porn Myth

Brilliance shines through this article (more of a lament, really), which discusses the effects of pornography on men and [real] sex. Her diagnosis can hardly be more poignant than the response of a young man explaining to her why sex should come first in relationships.

“Why have sex right away?” a boy with tousled hair and Bambi eyes was explaining. “Things are always a little tense and uncomfortable when you just start seeing someone,” he said. “I prefer to have sex right away just to get it over with. You know it’s going to happen anyway, and it gets rid of the tension.”

“Isn’t the tension kind of fun?” I asked. “Doesn’t that also get rid of the mystery?”

“Mystery?” He looked at me blankly. And then, without hesitating, he replied: “I don’t know what you’re talking about. Sex has no mystery.”

...the only proper response to such soul deadening (for those nonreligious of you, think "life deadening") nonsense is this (or perhaps vomiting).